Thinking about writing an article for the ladies.
Please dont suggest anything as silly as "What women want". I am not a magician.
Any original suggestions?
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Cowboy Style
Welcome back to anther issue of articles by the SugaDaddy at www.sugadate.co.za .
Ok boys, I hope you have read the last article on “Wingmen” and left behind any thick follies you might have had on of finding one there. This being said, its time to seriously talk about the real deal: “Cowboy” tactics.
The term “Cowboy” style means having the resources and abilities (i.e. the cahoonas) to get the job done unaided. Period. This is a very simple concept, but for some or other reason s you twits just do not seem to get it. I have to constantly shake my head in dismay at what I find out there and at www.sugadate.co.za .
Let me give you a simplified illustration of what is going out there. And yes, it amuses me to no end each and every time I am out there observing you bananas: You walk into a place, head down, shoulders hunched forward and you make a hasty bee-line towards the safety of the bar. You then proceed to nervously find yourself a perch in the most dingy corner of the bar and order yourself a disenchanting drink. Within a heartbeat of sitting your useless behind down on your already pitiful excuse of a perch you start playing with your mobile as if there was something novel and new about it that just appeared out of thin air. This mobile charade of yours then goes on for another painful hour or two while you hope to any and all deity (s) out there that that dazzling girl you have always been dreaming of will straddle right up to you, order both of you a tequila and ask you for your number.
Yes. Very pathetic, but I hope you get the picture here.
First of, let us start with the basic rule of engagement: You have decided to go out Han Solo style for a reason. That reason is to find yourself your slice of the pie. You need to be fully honest and completely aware of your desire here. This is crucial. You need to have an unwavering purpose in your endeavor. This means you better pull yourself together and start focusing a little. You are a cowboy. A cowboy takes no half measures and no prisoners. A cowboy walks with confidence, a defined and observable purpose. Nothing gets in his way. This being said, it does not mean that you have to make an ape out of yourself by ambling along as if you have a carrot stuck in your poop-shoot while you try to walk right through that mountain of a body-builder, cousin of the Yeti , because he seems to be in your path of self destruction. Do that and you will very soon learn a very valuable lesson in humility and pain.
Secondly, at this early stage of your endeavor the bar vicinity should be of no concern to you. None you hear me. For now your purpose is to take inventory. Where are the closest exits? Trust me, this may come in handy. Where are the facilities? Identify your competition. Locate the 10 hottest and 10 worst girls around. What are they drinking? Who are they with? Are they having a good time? Is their radar on? What are they wearing? Etc… As you make your round, you need to mentally register everything. You need to know as much as you can about your prey before you start the hunt. Ideally during this round you have established eye contact, caught some snippets of conversation, (which can be like gold nuggets to your undertaking later) and build a powerful repertoire.
Now that the groundwork has been established you make yourself to the bar. As you approach the bar you need to choose your kingly throne where you truly belong, a strategic place where you can see and be seen. Now, take a load of and carefully consider your poison. While doing that you need to strike up a conversation with the bar-tender. This is vital; the bar-tender is the focal point of the establishment. Everyone knows the bar-tender and the bar-tender knows everyone. Your intermediate goal is to corrupt his/her poor soul to your dark purpose. By any means necessary. Yes that’s right, any means within legal limits.
At this stage you know who is who in the zoo. You have made a powerful ally, placed yourself strategically into the main traffic route and are confidently chilling with a drink in your grubby paw.
This next part is hugely important. Unless you truly just received a text message (sms) from one or more of the recent Pirelli calendar girls exclaiming her undying love for you, this is really, really , really not an opportune time to undo all your earlier good work by twiddling aimlessly with your cell phone. No, this is the time to let your explicit marketing message to sink in out there while you strategy your next move. Just remember, you are a cowboy. This is your playground and everyone has come out to play with you. Not the other way around. That’s right its all about the 3 “A”s: Attitude, Attitude and more Attitude. But remember to play nice, you never know whether you will be treading on your future wives brother or other on the toes.
To bring the concept to online dating at www.sugadate.co.za , here are some key ingredients to online dating success:
• Put your darn profile picture up. I don’t know how often I have to repeat myself. You must have the confidence to show all sides of you. This shows that you know who and what you are and that you are perfectly comfortable with allowing the universe out there to appreciate you.
• Fill in your profile details with painstaking accuracy, finesse and flair. And for heavens sake, use a bloody spell checker. Remember, your profile is your online dating business card. It needs to look good. It is what can make or break you out there. It is your opportunity to outshine your competition.
• Be an active member of the online dating community. Join the forums, participate in live chats, rate other members profiles. At all times, remember the golden rule: ‘You get what you give’
Keep in mind, a cowboy is confident and single-mindedly pursues his purpose. He utilizes the tools he has available to him to full effect. So when you are on www.sugadate.co.za you need to use your tools like a master craftsman. I will go so far as to publically offer this challenge to anyone out there: Join www.sugadate.co.za for free within the next 30 days. Fill in your new or existing profile with a cruel and unwavering purpose. Then mail me at sugaadmin@sugadate.co.za to review your profile and I will personally see to it that you receive a 100% free, 1 month advanced membership absolutely gratis.
Let’s see if you noodles out there can thoroughly impress me with your profiles over the next 30 days. Stay tuned for the next installment where I will be spilling the beans of the results of this challenge. Coupled, of course, with all the greatest do`s and don’ts on dating as well as online dating. Until then, GOOD HUNTING
SugaDaddy
www.sugadate.co.za
sugaadmin@sugadate.co.za
Ok boys, I hope you have read the last article on “Wingmen” and left behind any thick follies you might have had on of finding one there. This being said, its time to seriously talk about the real deal: “Cowboy” tactics.
The term “Cowboy” style means having the resources and abilities (i.e. the cahoonas) to get the job done unaided. Period. This is a very simple concept, but for some or other reason s you twits just do not seem to get it. I have to constantly shake my head in dismay at what I find out there and at www.sugadate.co.za .
Let me give you a simplified illustration of what is going out there. And yes, it amuses me to no end each and every time I am out there observing you bananas: You walk into a place, head down, shoulders hunched forward and you make a hasty bee-line towards the safety of the bar. You then proceed to nervously find yourself a perch in the most dingy corner of the bar and order yourself a disenchanting drink. Within a heartbeat of sitting your useless behind down on your already pitiful excuse of a perch you start playing with your mobile as if there was something novel and new about it that just appeared out of thin air. This mobile charade of yours then goes on for another painful hour or two while you hope to any and all deity (s) out there that that dazzling girl you have always been dreaming of will straddle right up to you, order both of you a tequila and ask you for your number.
Yes. Very pathetic, but I hope you get the picture here.
First of, let us start with the basic rule of engagement: You have decided to go out Han Solo style for a reason. That reason is to find yourself your slice of the pie. You need to be fully honest and completely aware of your desire here. This is crucial. You need to have an unwavering purpose in your endeavor. This means you better pull yourself together and start focusing a little. You are a cowboy. A cowboy takes no half measures and no prisoners. A cowboy walks with confidence, a defined and observable purpose. Nothing gets in his way. This being said, it does not mean that you have to make an ape out of yourself by ambling along as if you have a carrot stuck in your poop-shoot while you try to walk right through that mountain of a body-builder, cousin of the Yeti , because he seems to be in your path of self destruction. Do that and you will very soon learn a very valuable lesson in humility and pain.
Secondly, at this early stage of your endeavor the bar vicinity should be of no concern to you. None you hear me. For now your purpose is to take inventory. Where are the closest exits? Trust me, this may come in handy. Where are the facilities? Identify your competition. Locate the 10 hottest and 10 worst girls around. What are they drinking? Who are they with? Are they having a good time? Is their radar on? What are they wearing? Etc… As you make your round, you need to mentally register everything. You need to know as much as you can about your prey before you start the hunt. Ideally during this round you have established eye contact, caught some snippets of conversation, (which can be like gold nuggets to your undertaking later) and build a powerful repertoire.
Now that the groundwork has been established you make yourself to the bar. As you approach the bar you need to choose your kingly throne where you truly belong, a strategic place where you can see and be seen. Now, take a load of and carefully consider your poison. While doing that you need to strike up a conversation with the bar-tender. This is vital; the bar-tender is the focal point of the establishment. Everyone knows the bar-tender and the bar-tender knows everyone. Your intermediate goal is to corrupt his/her poor soul to your dark purpose. By any means necessary. Yes that’s right, any means within legal limits.
At this stage you know who is who in the zoo. You have made a powerful ally, placed yourself strategically into the main traffic route and are confidently chilling with a drink in your grubby paw.
This next part is hugely important. Unless you truly just received a text message (sms) from one or more of the recent Pirelli calendar girls exclaiming her undying love for you, this is really, really , really not an opportune time to undo all your earlier good work by twiddling aimlessly with your cell phone. No, this is the time to let your explicit marketing message to sink in out there while you strategy your next move. Just remember, you are a cowboy. This is your playground and everyone has come out to play with you. Not the other way around. That’s right its all about the 3 “A”s: Attitude, Attitude and more Attitude. But remember to play nice, you never know whether you will be treading on your future wives brother or other on the toes.
To bring the concept to online dating at www.sugadate.co.za , here are some key ingredients to online dating success:
• Put your darn profile picture up. I don’t know how often I have to repeat myself. You must have the confidence to show all sides of you. This shows that you know who and what you are and that you are perfectly comfortable with allowing the universe out there to appreciate you.
• Fill in your profile details with painstaking accuracy, finesse and flair. And for heavens sake, use a bloody spell checker. Remember, your profile is your online dating business card. It needs to look good. It is what can make or break you out there. It is your opportunity to outshine your competition.
• Be an active member of the online dating community. Join the forums, participate in live chats, rate other members profiles. At all times, remember the golden rule: ‘You get what you give’
Keep in mind, a cowboy is confident and single-mindedly pursues his purpose. He utilizes the tools he has available to him to full effect. So when you are on www.sugadate.co.za you need to use your tools like a master craftsman. I will go so far as to publically offer this challenge to anyone out there: Join www.sugadate.co.za for free within the next 30 days. Fill in your new or existing profile with a cruel and unwavering purpose. Then mail me at sugaadmin@sugadate.co.za to review your profile and I will personally see to it that you receive a 100% free, 1 month advanced membership absolutely gratis.
Let’s see if you noodles out there can thoroughly impress me with your profiles over the next 30 days. Stay tuned for the next installment where I will be spilling the beans of the results of this challenge. Coupled, of course, with all the greatest do`s and don’ts on dating as well as online dating. Until then, GOOD HUNTING
SugaDaddy
www.sugadate.co.za
sugaadmin@sugadate.co.za
Tips and tricks to mix and match: how to date
Being a newbie to dating as a woman is a frightening task. There is a dreaded fear of meeting an axe murderer or some creepy freak just waiting to stalk you. It has become hard for men to meet women and visa versa. The older you get, the harder it gets to meet that special someone. People have lost the definition of love and romance. Time is fast paced and the rat race prevents any time for leisure let alone an opportunity to go love hunting.
SugaDate (www.sugadate.co.za) provides a unique opportunity to meet your match. We have success stories that prove our success rate is apart from the other online match making sites. We go beyond the norm to provide you with safe tips on how to date and find that special someone. We wish you good luck on your love venture and hope you have loads of fun while seeking him or her.
Dating 10 safety tips and helpful hints: online dating
1. Make sure that you date someone in a public place always be safe
2. When seeking someone avoid someone who uses obscenity in his or her profile if it is love that you are after then anything that has sexual connotations added to his or her profile to be ignored, don’t even reply to their invitations.
3. Be honest with your potential date, don’t lie and don’t let him or her lie to you. For example, if the potential partner is a confessed alcoholic and you do not drink, that match will not work, stick to similarities and do not negotiate with your restrictions.
4. Do not lie about your age, you are only fooling yourself
5. Make absolutely certain you are not accidentally falling for a married man.
6. Do not give you cell number or address unless you completely feel you can trust your date
7. Friendship first, in most cases, not all, it is good to form a friendship first. A bit of chatting and getting to know someone before you meet can help
8. Always have your wingmen or wing lady or someone you can rely on to phone you and check on how the date is going; you can always use the call as an excuse to get out of the date if it turns out to be a huge disappointment.
9. Always follow your gut. When in doubt, go without. If you are feeling slightly unsure about going on a date with a certain person, it is usually best to follow that feeling.
10. Do not allow them to buy you a drink unless you can see it being poured.
If you have followed these tips, dress up, relax and go have fun on your date. Feel free to comment or if you have any questions we can do our best to answer you. Happy dating!
www.sugadate.co.za
Being a newbie to dating as a woman is a frightening task. There is a dreaded fear of meeting an axe murderer or some creepy freak just waiting to stalk you. It has become hard for men to meet women and visa versa. The older you get, the harder it gets to meet that special someone. People have lost the definition of love and romance. Time is fast paced and the rat race prevents any time for leisure let alone an opportunity to go love hunting.
SugaDate (www.sugadate.co.za) provides a unique opportunity to meet your match. We have success stories that prove our success rate is apart from the other online match making sites. We go beyond the norm to provide you with safe tips on how to date and find that special someone. We wish you good luck on your love venture and hope you have loads of fun while seeking him or her.
Dating 10 safety tips and helpful hints: online dating
1. Make sure that you date someone in a public place always be safe
2. When seeking someone avoid someone who uses obscenity in his or her profile if it is love that you are after then anything that has sexual connotations added to his or her profile to be ignored, don’t even reply to their invitations.
3. Be honest with your potential date, don’t lie and don’t let him or her lie to you. For example, if the potential partner is a confessed alcoholic and you do not drink, that match will not work, stick to similarities and do not negotiate with your restrictions.
4. Do not lie about your age, you are only fooling yourself
5. Make absolutely certain you are not accidentally falling for a married man.
6. Do not give you cell number or address unless you completely feel you can trust your date
7. Friendship first, in most cases, not all, it is good to form a friendship first. A bit of chatting and getting to know someone before you meet can help
8. Always have your wingmen or wing lady or someone you can rely on to phone you and check on how the date is going; you can always use the call as an excuse to get out of the date if it turns out to be a huge disappointment.
9. Always follow your gut. When in doubt, go without. If you are feeling slightly unsure about going on a date with a certain person, it is usually best to follow that feeling.
10. Do not allow them to buy you a drink unless you can see it being poured.
If you have followed these tips, dress up, relax and go have fun on your date. Feel free to comment or if you have any questions we can do our best to answer you. Happy dating!
www.sugadate.co.za
Do you need a wingman? How to get the girl without a wingman?
Coming from a female perspective this article is pretty easy to write. It is my belief (as a woman speaking to a man) that you don’t need a wingman. You just need guts and maybe a little courage to approach a woman. Guess what fellas, women want to be approached.
So many times I have seen a guy keen on a girl but he just lets her pass by and he does not take the chance to ask her out. Rejection does not reflect you or who you are, you can’t be afraid of her saying no because the fact is that she may just say ‘yes’. To not have balls and ask a woman out would be that you possibly miss out on the chance of a life time.
The sexiest thing for a woman is a man who has self confidence but the biggest turn off for most women is arrogance so please keep that one in mind. I suppose it is sometimes necessary to have a wingman but the most important aspect in ‘getting the girl’ is to love yourself enough to approach the lady, ask her out and depend on your own personality to win her over.
Since the age of the wingman is coming to a stand still it has become necessary for the man to take charge and do things himself. That in itself is not a bad thing. The main thing is balance, you don’t want to come across as creepy and you don’t want to come across as uninterested. The main thing question you have to ask yourself is, “how do I get the girl?” that question is a large one especially if she is someone you are really attracted to.
I will give away some secrets…how to get the girl…
1. Self confidence (if you don’t have any, work on it, go to the gym, get active and work on liking yourself)
2. A touch of charm (women do like beautiful lies.. tell them what they want to hear. Don’t come with cheesy pick up lines rather speak from the heart and say something like,” I couldn’t help notice you from across the room, you look amazing and I’d love to get to know you more, can I buy you a drink or take you out for dinner sometime?”
3. Deliberately flirt with her, stare at her but don’t creep her out, give her a smile, don’t be shy! If you see her smile back at you, go to her and just do it, ask her out, strike a conversation
4. The best questions and tips on how to strike a conversation with her would be simple, ask her if she is from around here, what does she do for fun? Keep it light hearted and nonchalant.
5. Be well dressed and take some time on your looks, be clean cut, smell nice and make effort to attract the girl.
6. Be there! When you get that first date there are a few things will get you to the next level. To get the girl to go on a second date, show her that she can trust you. Don’t play games, you must just be you. Don’t phone her ten times a day but maybe text her the next day after the date saying, “I really enjoyed going out with you, would love to do that again. Call you later this evening.” Then live up to what you have said. If you don’t want to see her again tell her but if you do want to see her again, open your heart and allow her to build a trust in you and let her see who you are. Be yourself! Please just be yourself!
7. Show her your responsibility. Show her that you can live up to what you say you are. Don’t lie to her about yourself. Most decent women out there don’t care about how much money you make but as long as you can show her that she can rely on you will suffice.
That is it for now, keep coming to suga date blogspot or www.sugadate.co.za for more tips and ideas. The next issue will be good dating ideas.. unusual tactics to make her stomach turn and ways to get her to beg for more.
So many times I have seen a guy keen on a girl but he just lets her pass by and he does not take the chance to ask her out. Rejection does not reflect you or who you are, you can’t be afraid of her saying no because the fact is that she may just say ‘yes’. To not have balls and ask a woman out would be that you possibly miss out on the chance of a life time.
The sexiest thing for a woman is a man who has self confidence but the biggest turn off for most women is arrogance so please keep that one in mind. I suppose it is sometimes necessary to have a wingman but the most important aspect in ‘getting the girl’ is to love yourself enough to approach the lady, ask her out and depend on your own personality to win her over.
Since the age of the wingman is coming to a stand still it has become necessary for the man to take charge and do things himself. That in itself is not a bad thing. The main thing is balance, you don’t want to come across as creepy and you don’t want to come across as uninterested. The main thing question you have to ask yourself is, “how do I get the girl?” that question is a large one especially if she is someone you are really attracted to.
I will give away some secrets…how to get the girl…
1. Self confidence (if you don’t have any, work on it, go to the gym, get active and work on liking yourself)
2. A touch of charm (women do like beautiful lies.. tell them what they want to hear. Don’t come with cheesy pick up lines rather speak from the heart and say something like,” I couldn’t help notice you from across the room, you look amazing and I’d love to get to know you more, can I buy you a drink or take you out for dinner sometime?”
3. Deliberately flirt with her, stare at her but don’t creep her out, give her a smile, don’t be shy! If you see her smile back at you, go to her and just do it, ask her out, strike a conversation
4. The best questions and tips on how to strike a conversation with her would be simple, ask her if she is from around here, what does she do for fun? Keep it light hearted and nonchalant.
5. Be well dressed and take some time on your looks, be clean cut, smell nice and make effort to attract the girl.
6. Be there! When you get that first date there are a few things will get you to the next level. To get the girl to go on a second date, show her that she can trust you. Don’t play games, you must just be you. Don’t phone her ten times a day but maybe text her the next day after the date saying, “I really enjoyed going out with you, would love to do that again. Call you later this evening.” Then live up to what you have said. If you don’t want to see her again tell her but if you do want to see her again, open your heart and allow her to build a trust in you and let her see who you are. Be yourself! Please just be yourself!
7. Show her your responsibility. Show her that you can live up to what you say you are. Don’t lie to her about yourself. Most decent women out there don’t care about how much money you make but as long as you can show her that she can rely on you will suffice.
That is it for now, keep coming to suga date blogspot or www.sugadate.co.za for more tips and ideas. The next issue will be good dating ideas.. unusual tactics to make her stomach turn and ways to get her to beg for more.
When you lose your wingman?
Men need each other. Did you know that women also have wing women? Yes it is true; women look out for one another more so than men do these days. This article is coming from a woman’s perspective. So for the men out there, here this and learn:
It is getting harder and harder to mingle these days. No one really likes to go to pubs and trust me, most of the women out there that are worth attracting are at home. There are other ways to get the girl. I recall watching the movie ‘wedding crashers’ if you have not seen that movie, I suggest you see it. The movie is about men who are best buddies (wingmen) and they go to weddings and try to score with women. As degrading as it may be for women, it’s the truth. I do not give these tips purely for scoring a night in bed with a girl; I give you these tips so that you find your love mate as that is what suga date is all about... If you desperately want to meet the love of your life finding a friend who can come along, stand by you and go the distance with you is harder to find. If you don’t have your wingman, you need to know what to do next.
I recall as a young girl, sixteen years old and I had never been approached by the one interested in me, it was always his friend. I recall those cute little words, “my friend thinks you’re cute.’ And he would point to his buddy down the hall and I would see this shy little smile and immediately my heart would soften. One thing though is that there is a huge risk in relying on your buddy these days.
Today people have their own agenda and couldn’t really care less that you still need that perfect love to come along into your life. Today a guy needs two things, a hell of a good mate and a hell of a great personality (self confidence). What happens when you lose your wingman? What happens when your mate crashes on you and leaves you to do the fishing alone? There is hope. Here are some ideas...
Join a gym or partake in a hobby, that way you will meet someone who has similar interests. This is sounding difficult isn’t it? Without that wingman by your side to help lure your potential mate is frightening. That is where sugadate comes in. We help you find someone who is also looking for that someone special. Here you can see their profiles and go at a pace that suits you. Decent women are incredibly hard to find. A lot of women work hard and stay at home. Some of them are too nervous to venture out into the dating scene.
SugaDate (www.sugadate.co.za) gives both genders an opportunity to meet someone on their own terms with first getting to know a bit about the potential partner. So when you lose your wingman and when you think all opportunity to meet the love of your life has failed follow this link and register with us and we can be your opportunity to find that special someone.
It is getting harder and harder to mingle these days. No one really likes to go to pubs and trust me, most of the women out there that are worth attracting are at home. There are other ways to get the girl. I recall watching the movie ‘wedding crashers’ if you have not seen that movie, I suggest you see it. The movie is about men who are best buddies (wingmen) and they go to weddings and try to score with women. As degrading as it may be for women, it’s the truth. I do not give these tips purely for scoring a night in bed with a girl; I give you these tips so that you find your love mate as that is what suga date is all about... If you desperately want to meet the love of your life finding a friend who can come along, stand by you and go the distance with you is harder to find. If you don’t have your wingman, you need to know what to do next.
I recall as a young girl, sixteen years old and I had never been approached by the one interested in me, it was always his friend. I recall those cute little words, “my friend thinks you’re cute.’ And he would point to his buddy down the hall and I would see this shy little smile and immediately my heart would soften. One thing though is that there is a huge risk in relying on your buddy these days.
Today people have their own agenda and couldn’t really care less that you still need that perfect love to come along into your life. Today a guy needs two things, a hell of a good mate and a hell of a great personality (self confidence). What happens when you lose your wingman? What happens when your mate crashes on you and leaves you to do the fishing alone? There is hope. Here are some ideas...
Join a gym or partake in a hobby, that way you will meet someone who has similar interests. This is sounding difficult isn’t it? Without that wingman by your side to help lure your potential mate is frightening. That is where sugadate comes in. We help you find someone who is also looking for that someone special. Here you can see their profiles and go at a pace that suits you. Decent women are incredibly hard to find. A lot of women work hard and stay at home. Some of them are too nervous to venture out into the dating scene.
SugaDate (www.sugadate.co.za) gives both genders an opportunity to meet someone on their own terms with first getting to know a bit about the potential partner. So when you lose your wingman and when you think all opportunity to meet the love of your life has failed follow this link and register with us and we can be your opportunity to find that special someone.
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